I'm sure we all had that moment when we feel as though we have committing ourselves into too much, we threw ourselves into things too quickly and deeply, and ended up feeling as though we don't have enough time, we don't have enough energy. I'm sure we have all felt it before, we aim to please so hard, we end up sacrificing our own happiness.
Do we love ourselves? How much do we love ourselves? How do we love ourselves more?
Here are some of the things I do to remind myself to stay right in the center, and not allowing my innit pursue to pleasing others and archiving some career/physical goal to get in the way of letting myself be happy:
* This is a new series of blog where instead of rambling on, I'll share some tips and ideas on what you can do as well, to get a healthier and better mental and physical health.
Our mind is so used to having stimulations all the time, to a point that it is obsessed with it. Perhaps you have tried being so restless being idle; perhaps you have caught yourself closing an app and immediately opening it again.
If your mind is prone to fidgeting, start a meditation practice today. It might feel very uncomfortable in the beginning, or you feel unable to sit still and unwind. But don't give up, meditation doesn't have to be a one hour, sitting in lotus with your back straight up kind of practice. Meditation comes in many thousands of methods and form, if the one you tried didn't work, perhaps you just haven't found the type that works for you.
For me finding a voice that I like, that I feel comfortable with has been the issue, hence I have starting making my own free meditation audio clips here, if you already come to class regularly, try them and see if we can trick your mind into relaxing.
Movement is medicine. We all know that - if you don't have a physical practice of any modality, it may be a good idea to start one now. It doesn't have to be yoga, perhaps for you it is running, perhaps for you it is hula hopping. Start from a small dose of movement to condition your muscularskeletal body into being lubricated, being smooth again.
Another nourishment sometimes we easily forget is food. In ancient ayurveda and Chinese medicine, food is sometimes referred to as food medicine. The kind of nourishment we absorb through our digestive system is incredibly important to our wellbeing - both mentally and physically.
Sit down and run a check list of what you eat on a good day, and what you eat on a bad day. And highlight any food/meal that includes:
- Processed sugar
- Refined carbohydrates (Plain white flour, pasta, pizza)
- Processed foods (Canned, food from a pack, fast foods)
- Large amount of red meat (More than 50% of the portion of your meal)
And run a list of what you can use as an internative to the identified less ideal food sources. For example, substituting your after dinner ice cream with frozen berries with cream; or perhaps instead of regular pasta substitute that with soya pasta, or zucchini pasta. Replace your processed sugar with natural sweetener like banana, agave. And instead of filling your belly with red meat and fast carbs, try to fill your belly with white meat, or vegetable protein.
I'm going on a no processed sugar diet again from today (7.March) until the end of this year, and it does wonders for my body. It reduces my inflammation, my sluggishness. I invite you to join me. You don't have to start with a rest of the year commitment. In fact, if you have never done it before, I encourage you to start with a 1+2 weeks schedule. Start with cutting dessert and replacing it with healthier alternatives in the first week, and then commit to not having any processed sugar in your diet. Keep your progress in a journal, perhaps you are just writing them down, or perhaps you are joining me on instagram using #byesugar to post inspirations, meal prep for yourself and other people.
Feel it and notice the difference it makes in your body.
Get your own sacred, personal, non-doing space.
Dedicate time in your daily routine to have 10 minutes of doing nothingness. No looking at the phone, no being on the computer, no cooking, talking, planning. Try to sit somewhere that you feel safe and undisturbed, and observe.
Perhaps you are the kind of people who like to look up into the night sky and watch the stars. Perhaps it is on your commute to work, in the middle of a walk way, of a train platform. Perhaps it is in the morning, when you take your walk to where you need to go.
Turn off your judgemental brain, turn off the need to process any information, turn off the action list. And let the surrounding steep into you.
Create this space for yourself, if you mind fidgets, it itches, set a timer, make your mind have to stay away from any of these stimulations. Perhaps in the beginning you will need help from the music, perhaps in the beginning you can only stay away for a minute or two. But a daily practice of detaching and making space is going to translate, and it is going to decrease your anxiety, your stress level.
If you are having a hard time making a discipline of it, find and join a restorative yoga class. This is a type of yoga that has very little physical component, the practice is made for conditioning the mind into accepting and facing stillness. Perhaps you won't feel changed in one session but try it a few times and let your mind slowly adapt into the new mode and condition, and watch as that transforms your energy and stress level.
4. Go Upside Down
At the very beginning of me teaching yoga I was so nervous every time. One trick that I learned was to do a Downward facing dog before going into class.
When you are having a particular bad day, where it is difficult to find stillness and move our consciousness from our head towards our lower extremities, try switching your perspective.
It doesn't have to be a complicated posture, perhaps you just lean your buttock onto the wall and release your head and spine down. Notice how your breath changes immediately, notice how your body slows down immediately. Take deep breathes until you are ready to face your on-going activities again.
5. Decide your anchor
It has long been discussed that minerals are energetically aiding us. I have numerous palm stones and tumble stones, whether or not the stones has energetic properties, I am not going to discuss here, but what I find very useful is the shear act of palming an object, in my case, a mineral stone.
Decide on an object that is you, that belongs to you, an object that preferably fits neatly into the size of your palm and has a texture like you like. Whenever you feel unease, or feel a certain anxiety or difficulty coming up, hold onto your object. Focus your mind onto the sensation of holding it, the texture and the temperature instead. Experiment with this and notice if it makes any difference in your peace of mind.
I hope no matter which ones draw to you more, you will find a little something that helps.
Let me know what you would like me to write about by commenting below, or sending me a message at firstname.lastname@example.org. Have a wonderful day.